Emotional self-awareness is an intrapersonal sub-factor which can be defined as the capability of an individual to understand and to be aware of their emotions. It does sound like it is a self-explanatory skill. You just have to be aware of your emotions. Yet, emotional self awareness is more than that. It is not only the awareness of our emotions but also the understanding of what caused our emotions, how to differentiate between different emotions and why we reacted in a certain way on a particular occasion. In a way, emotional self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence. It provides a unique way to understand, modify and change – if needed – you for a better life.
Mastering the knowledge of emotional self-awareness opens doors to better understanding of all other skills of emotional intelligence. People having good emotional self-awareness know when they are feeling tetchy, sad or down. They know how a particular feeling is going to affect their behavior. This understanding in turn also affects people around them.
Emotional self-awareness becomes doubly important for working men/women. If you are feeling down or having a personal issue your colleagues & bosses will immediately see it. It can affect your performance and work. The capability to judge your emotions is a vital skill, to be able to just sit back and ask yourself about your mental state and how you are about to handle it.
In the following lines I am going to help you develop emotional self-awareness.
Find a notebook and note down an interaction or a situation in the last week that gave you a particular emotion like anxiety, anger, sadness, happiness and fear. Write all the circumstances that triggered a particular emotion. Also write down your reaction to the feeling. In the end, write down any self-talk associated with that instance.
Choose one feeling at a time
Repeat above mentioned procedure for each emotion.
Review your feelings while ranking it on a scale of 1-10. The strongest emotion on the list indicates your “bothering point”. On further investigation you will find that this point will interfere with your problem-solving, reality resting and intrapersonal relationship skills
Next, ask yourself whether the outcome of that emotion was good, bad or neutral for you. Could you have handled it in a better way? Write down all the possible ways your feeling could have helped you achieve a better result.
I am sure this will help you have a better understanding of your emotional self awareness.